Do you have a big mug of something hot? It's time to grab a refill, and maybe a box of tissues. Don't worry this is a safe place!
Today I wanted to share the heart behind it all. I know at first glance a “gift shop” toting slogans of community and kindness don’t seem to match up that well. I know that there are people who don’t totally get it. Like why would I go online and search out Shindig Shop to buy my friend something special to let her know that I’m thinking about her when I could just run to the local starbucks, or the mall? A much more likely scenario.
I totally hear you, and it’s really great if you do those things. I have enjoyed it when a sweet friend made a stop by my place with a starbucks latte just because she was in my neighbourhood. It totally made my day! As a matter of fact I encourage you to reach out to show tokens of love and friendship to those you hold dear no matter how you do it.
Here I’d like to bare my soul a wee bit and share with you the heartbeat of Shindig Shop.
We have 4 mantras that flow from my heart, an extension of my life experiences, my truths. These principles guide me from big picture dreaming and planning right down into my everyday grind.
Mantra: Throw kindness around like confetti
Gift giving is a legit love language. You can greatly increase your happiness factor by stepping out and doing something for someone else. This is pure science people! Gifts, random act of kindness, encouraging word, take your pick!
Generosity is the key here! Everyone can do a nice thing every once in a while, and of course you’ll still get the feels for it, but really...have you ever tried to gently sprinkle a tiny bit of confetti? It just doesn’t happen! You gotta grab a fistful and toss, and when you do there’s no telling where all that glittery goodness will land. I’m not saying acts of kindness always have to be grand, but sometimes they can’t be planned. Most acts of kindness come in a moment of opportunity, don't be choosy when sharing kindness. I would be willing to bet that remnant sparkles of your generous acts of love will magically reappear even years after they’ve been bestowed. Generosity is inspiring!
Mantra: Community over competition
We search out products from Canadian makers and small businesses whom we test and love. It is our hope that you fall in love with the products included in our boxes and purchase them again from the makers themselves, or through stockists. I have personally been that maker at a craft fair with seriously amazing goods, no shame! Trust me when I say, it totally blows to only get a small amount of exposure (and dinero) for all that hard work. We’d like to do what we can to help showcase these amazing makers who are pouring their heart and soul into their goods.
If we are really all about community how can we have a blog that only shares my own personal stories about friendship and my coveted party tricks? It just doesn’t make sense. Here is a perfect opportunity to share about many different tribes of women, our struggles and the joys of friendship in the truest sense of community over competition. By doing this together with one voice I truly believe we will empower women who feel like they maybe are alone to show up, search out and fight for this elusive “tribe” that we speak of.
As boss babes we find it hard to lay down our guard in the presence of competitors or other strong women. What if we found like minded ladies and supported each other in our endeavours instead of competing? I’m not talking about spilling trade secrets here, but genuine support. We’d have an unstoppable force to be reckoned with, that’s what! There would be growth in all of our businesses, we’d make major headway in social justice issues, and we might even make a friend or two.
Here’s a little truth bomb for you all, there’s enough business for all of us! BAM!!!
Mantra: Your vibe attracts your tribe
Finding your place in a tribe comes when you uncover the layers of who you are and take care of yourself first. But sometimes we need our tribe in order to create an environment for this to happen tho, don’t we? Like if no one is going to watch my kids for an hour so I can take a break and go to the dentist #momlife...My teeth might actually fall out! Honestly the most amazing thing I’ve seen within the context of a tribe is this self-actualization. When women discover their own truths and share them in a safe place, it only perpetuates more truth. I really hope that by sharing our stories of friendship and our own personal growth in light of our friendships that more and more women will discover how amazing, wonderful, and enough they really are.
Mantra: An attitude of gratitude = Happiness
This one is a little more personal. It really speaks to my story of friendship. Honestly my whole life I have longed for that forever friend, the kind you read about or see on t.v. but it just never happened for me. Even as a young adult I remember essentially begging for mentorship. People in my life seemed to be there only for seasons, and I got used their comings and goings. There were never any big fights or blowouts, just simply floating into and out. As I look back over my life I can see a clear path of purposeful relationships leading me to these last few years. The tribe my heart so desired was born first with a very small handful of close friends who I had the privilege to walk through the deepest darkest valleys with. Let me tell you, there’s nothing like a dark valley that’ll make you cling together, or nudge you to lift up a friend and carry them. That shit is real, and it makes the roots go deep! Then slowly and steadily God brought me a few more gems and I am ever thankful for them. I am grateful everyday, because I honestly could not function without them. I just think of all the lonely women out there trying to navigate through the day to day menutia and I literally have tears streaming down my face right now because it is just so heavy. I just want to stand up and say, “Hey! I hear you! I understand. Show up, search out and fight for your tribe! You don’t have to do this alone.”
So now that I have a solid ugly cry and a vulnerability hangover happening over here. I’m gonna let you sit with that.
Allow it to percolate and ruminate for a bit.
Hopefully this long-winded rant gives a little insight into our why and the direction we are taking, and inspires you to jump in. I challenge you to respond in someway and join the conversation, whether it be an act of kindness or sharing in this conversation somehow.
Welcome to the Shindig tribe.
Sarah Winsor is Owner & Designer at Shindig Shop. With a very full heart, Sarah places a high value on showing appreciation to those near and dear. You could say her love language is gift giving (and receiving, let's be honest!). She is very proud to belong to a kickass tribe of boss babe women. Having experienced these kinds of relationships she wants to inspire you and give you hope to keep building your tribe. It'll change your life! Her most precious gems are certainly her family. You can find them on Instagram to follow along with all of their shenanigans.
Hey guys! I am Sarah, Owner and Designer at Shindig Shop. I'm so happy to get to know you all a bit more and help to facilitate stories and celebrations of friendship.